A Calm Guide to Choosing the Right Therapist for You

When I first decided to look for a counsellor, I got really stuck. I endlessly looked at lists of therapists, studied their photos, re-read their websites. And I just couldn’t choose. I was utterly overwhelmed.

I was paralysed by questions that went round and round: 

• What if it doesn’t help? 

• What if I’m just ‘making a fuss’? 

• What if I choose the wrong therapist?

And then the justifications… 

• surely I can just handle this on my own? 

• I’ll probably be fine.. 

• It’s easier to just leave things as they are

  
  

If this all feels familiar, you might notice something similar going on for you.

If you learned somewhere along the way that coping alone kept things calmer or safer, it is completely understandable that you still automatically reach for self-reliance. In moments like this, you may be reacting from habit, from a pattern that once helped you get along.

Seen this way, it is a brilliant, creative adaptation that developed for a reason, even if now it leaves you feeling stuck or alone.

You might also feel that making contact with a counsellor means you are committed. In day-to-day life, we often invest a lot in protecting other people from our feelings. Counselling should be different -  a good therapist will actively encourage and support you to explore working together, to really sense into what feels right and to, ultimately, find the right therapist for you. 

If you recognise yourself in any of this and want to explore this together, you can contact me here - absolutely no-obligation!

We can arrange either a 15 minute phone call or a 50 minute session to explore your decision-making and help you get started on your therapy journey - either with me or another counsellor.